Why men attracted to men
Once in a while, a straight guy might want to have sex with a man, just because he wants to — and it means nothing more than that, says psychotherapist and sex therapist Joe Kort.
Kort writes a blog for Huffington Post, in which he’s recently been exploring themes of why men are attracted to men.
In a recent post about out country singer Steve Grand’s lyric “All-American Boy” — in which a gay man falls in love with a straight dude and they participate a quick smooch — Kort explores why a same-sex attracted man might be attracted to a straight man.
But Kort says that watching the video of the kiss also raises a interrogate for many people: why did the straight guy in the video smooch the gay guy back?
In a follow-up blog post, Kort explores why some straight men are romantically or sexually attracted to other men.
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He says there’s a long list of reasons why a straight gentleman might be motivated — from “reliving first sexual experiences” to “father-hunger
About gay male sexuality
Many men report that they had experiences with people of the same sex when they were young. This is often a normal part of exploring their sexuality. Men who travel on to describe themselves as ‘same-sex attracted’ or ‘gay’ have a mighty physical and emotional attraction to men that they don’t usually feel for women.
Being a gay dude is natural
There is a lot of pressure from society for young men to be heterosexual or ‘straight’. This can often cause feelings of isolation for young men who are gay and build them scared to demonstrate their sexuality.
It’s crucial to remember:
- There are lgbtq+ men in every society and every country.
- Being homosexual is just a establish of sexuality.
Why some men are gay
There is no real explanation as to why some men are gay and others are not. Although there is no right or false answer to the interrogate, a possible reason suggested by researchers is that we are born with our sexual orientation.
Knowing whether you’re gay
There is no test or questionnaire you can complete that will answer this question for you. If you consider you might be homosexual, it’s important that you:
- Don’t deny your feelings.
- Take your time to explore your sexuality
BY KALI MUNRO, M.Ed., Psychotherapist, 2001 | Originally published in Siren, Feb/March 2001.
Do you think that it is possible to be lesbian and sexually attracted to men? What about lesbians who have sexual fantasies that include men? Or lesbians who contain relationships only with women and occasionally have sex with a man? If you have any of these feelings or experiences, you are not alone, and they don’t own to diminish your homosexual woman identity.
On the other hand, if the thought of one or all of these upset or rage you, you are not alone, either. As lesbians, we can be sensitive about these issues, and with good reason.
UNDERSTANDING WHY SOME LESBIANS ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE TOPIC
It’s not hard to understand why some lesbians might not trust lesbians or pansexual women who include men in their sex lives. In a world where we are told that lesbian relationships are a fad, a phase, less significant than straight relationships, don’t last, are unhappy, unstable, and lacking because there is no male involvement, and that all we need is a “good fuck,” it can be hard to experience open to lesbians or bisexual women who need, or do have sex with men.
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Irecentlywrotea blog post about the music video for singer-songwriter Steve Grand's song "All-American Boy," in which a gay man falls in love with a vertical man and they divide a quick kiss. In that post I addressed why gay men might be attracted to direct men, but that interrogate raises another: Why might a straight man be romantically or sexually attracted to other men? Why did the straight guy in the video smooch the gay guy assist, after all?
The following scenario happens many times: A man comes into my office, referred by his own therapist and clutching coming-out literature that the therapist has given him. He explains that his therapist has tried, unsuccessfully, to help him approach out as gay or bisexual, but even though he's had sex with other men or gone to gay porn websites, he insists that he isn't gay. He says that he isn't homophobic either; if it turns out that he is indeed gay or bi-curious, he'll accept it and move on with his life, but the label just doesn't feel right to him.
During the last three decades, in reaction to prejudiced and destructive anti-gay attitudes, we've seen the pendulum swing so far in the other direction that it's now become almost a thera
Why do some linear men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the Together States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the recent book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom savor hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva create that they savor a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to include more sex. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and s