Gay like em straight
Long-suffering Spectator readers merit a seasonal end from yet another Remoaner diatribe from me. My last on this page, making the outrageous suggestion that the populace may sometimes be wrong, is now being brandished by online Leaver-readers of my Times column as proof that I am in fact a fascist; so there isn’t anywhere much to go from there.
Instead, I twist to sex. There is little second left for me to write about sex as the thoughts of a septuagenarian on this subject (I shift 70 this year) may soon encounter only a shudder. But I possess a theory which I have the audacity to reflect important.
What follows is not written here for the first time, and much of it is neither original nor new; but on very few subjects have I ever been more sure I’m right, or more sure that future generations will see so, and wonder that it stared us in the face yet was not accepted. My firm faith is that in trying to categorise sex, sexuality and — yes — even gender, the late 19th, 20th and early 21st centuries have taken the medical and social sciences down a massive blind alley. No such categories exist. And it has been particularly sad in 2018 to view the ‘tran
LastweekI took to my Facebook wall to repost this HuffPost article about 13 straight male German stars kissing for a GQ photo shoot to disagree homophobia and intolerance. Some gay men posted and sent me messages stating that they found it erotic to watch two straight men kiss -- sometimes more so than watching two gay men kiss. Some said they found this as erotic as two women kissing might be to a straight guy. This got me wondering: Why are some gay men sexually turned on by unbent men? Some even choose straight men over lgbtq+ men!
Before I get readers insisting that not all gay men are attracted to straight men, enable me say I realize that. I know, too, that it's politically incorrect to admit that there are gay men who are attracted to and pursue straight men, thanks to the myth that we gay men will pursue anyone who's male, ignoring social norms and acceptable etiquette. Of course this is ridiculous. In fact, it's so ridiculous that I performed some stand-up comedy on the topic, which you can see here:
Because of the projection from many a threatened straight male -- that every gay human is going to hope for to hit on him -- gay men possess silenced themselves on this topic
Meet The Straight Men Who Are Terrified They Are Gay
Hunched nude in the glow of his iMac, 17-year-old Darren* typed the words 'gay porn' into Google for the first time.
"I didn't fancy men," he tells me. "I had a girlfriend, and only ever had sexual feelings for women, but I just couldn't quiver the idea that I was somehow lying to myself."
He plugged in his headphones, clicked on an X-rated video and took a deep breath. It was around 3am, in the summer of 2007, and relentless fears of homosexuality had tormented him since the start of the year. "I just woke up one daytime and I was suddenly obsessed with it. It felt like everything I thought I knew about myself was falling apart. It didn't make any sense."
He watched, expecting something significant to stir upstairs or down. But there was nothing. Feeling identical measure victory and defeat, Darren switched off the monitor, laid flat on his bed and wrestled with his doubts for a few more hours before finally surrendering to sleep. He carried out the same test almost every night for the next three weeks, always with the same result.
After searching Internet mental health forums for answers to his
Before I provide you with a list of things you could take into account while responding to a queer proposal (if you are straight), it is most imperative that you hear to a story first.
Not a very long time ago, while lurking in my usual vacuum, trying to explore on something, I was perturbed by a gentleman; a good friend. “Neha,” he said, “I have no issues with these queer men as elongated as they preserve to themselves.” My attention was kindled.
“Keep to themselves?” I was a petite perplexed.
“You see, in my last workplace, a gay guy would often linger around me and try to chat up. One day he ended up proposing to me.” He said and shuddered as though nauseated. “I shooed him away.”
“Shooed him away? Like a bird?” I asked.
“These people are disgusting. How dare he?”
I almost asked him, “But he only proposed to you? What if he reflection you were gay? I mean that’s how humans stalk for potential cherish prospects, by asking”, but I didn’t. That was precisely what he was perhaps angered at. ‘How could the gay guy even presume his sexuality with all those mammoth muscles that
I knew Jake* would go me from the very first time we kissed.
We sat on my bed to the soundtrack of Brooklyn at midnight – a mix between the bass drums of the subway and the melodic humming of taxi cabs that whizzed by. His calloused fingers intertwined with my own, our hearts beating as quickly as cicada wings fluttering in the summer haze, we connected, like old lovers who reunited after a century apart. Or at least, that’s how I imagined it.
As I began pulling away, my deal with flushed with color, ashamed of how much less attractive I was, Jake pulled me back and told me I was beautiful. But at that moment, though I didn’t question Jake’s sincerity, I knew he’d never adore me – I knew this whole thing wouldn’t last. I knew he’d leave me.
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Jake was a straight boy and I knew how this would end – in complete, utter disappointment and heartache. I bring this up as the Internet is exposing gay men like James Charles for preying on straight men. In his specific case, James had weaponized his own celebrity to allegedly seduce men to decline for him. In one case, he went for a waiter in Washington, who later told him he wasn’t into