Am i gay if i like anal
I love anal sex. Does that make me gay?
Michael7771
I absolutely adore anal sex. I only ever receive and not interested in giving at all.
I have had sex with men several times but being married it's not always easy.. I now use the Renegade Meat Monster dildo off Lovehoney for my main pleasure. I can acquire around ten inches up and love the immersive full feeling it gives me. Problem is I just feel that I want some form of anal all the period. I also enjoy giving men oral if I ever get chance.
As I said I'm married and love my wife. I don't fancy men I do prefer women but I think I acquire more pleasure from anal sex than sex with my wife.
I usually describe myself as bi sexual but I'm not sure if that's correct or if in reality I'm gay and daren"t admit it. I would actually like regular sex with a regular male partner if I could ever sort that.
Any thoughts?
Eager-2-Please2
The way I see it, you can enjoy any kind of sensation/pleasure with very minuscule or no attached gender/sexuality to it.
Liking anal sex does not, in and of itself, build you gay. Liking and wanting sex with the same gender does build you gay, however.
You said that you care for your wife and opt favor women
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I’m gay but have zero craving to have anal sex with more men. I’ve topped and bottomed a few times with a few alternative guys and own never enjoyed it. Honestly, I can’t stop thinking about shit when doing anal. I’m terrified I’m going to accidentally poop on a guy, and when I uppermost, I’m worried I’m going to acquire shat on. It takes me out of the moment. But I really like giving and receiving blowjobs. That r
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There are gay (A man who is attracted to other men, or a person of any sex or gender who is sexually and emotionally attracted to people of the same or a similar sex or gender. Often used alongside lesbian.) or bisexual (A term for sexual orientation that describes a person who can be sexually and emotionally attracted to people of more than one gender.) men who love or appreciate anal sex (Sexual activity involving the anus. Anal sex may include stimulation with fingers, the mouth, a penis, sex toys, or other objects or body parts.), it’s true. But there are also homosexual or bisexual men who don’t fond it, or who just aren’t interested in it. There are heterosexual (Someone who is only or mostly emotionally and sexually attracted to people of a different sex or gender than they are themselves.) men who don’t like anal sex or aren’t interested in it, either. There are also heterosexual men who like or devotion it. And for all of these groups, all of that goes for being on either end of anal sex, as it were, and for people with partners of any or every gender (Characteristics that are seen or presented as d
Sexual health for same-sex attracted and bisexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps safeguard against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone fresh, you should have an STI and HIV check every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not generate any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can receive it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can emerge up to 8 weeks after sex and comprise tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a complete recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can escape getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after sex (bottom, groin a
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I'm Zachary Zane, a sex author and ethical manwhore (a fancy way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my fair contribute of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and a bunch of other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because you comprehend that already. Demand me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
To submit a question for a future column, fill out this form.
Dear Sexplain It,
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